Endless Love: Caring for someone with a terminal illness

by Pat Farrell

I know many people who have taken on a new role in their life: caregiver. It is challenging to care for a loved one suffering with a terminal illness. It is my hope that through my own personal struggle and questioning, you will be strengthened in your spirit to know His great love.

When my mother was diagnosed with ovarian cancer, I realized that I, like Jacob, was wrestling with God. “God, why must my mother suffer? She’s a good woman and does not deserve to linger like this. Why do you not take this cup from us Lord?”

In a moment of solitude while I was on the quiet of the riverfront, I came to know that I was powerless. This fighting was wearing me out physically and mentally. I could not make my mother well. The nurses and doctors could not bring her back to the woman she once was. None of us could have added one day to her life.

It was her creator, my God, who had all power over her situation. I needed to yield in complete faith to Him who is behind life itself. I had to hang on to Him and not let go. God is never one day early, and He will never be one day late.

When I came to this realization, my fighting stopped.

I smoothed my mother’s hair, turned her gently and kissed her forehead with a peace that this was the best way for me to be her caregiver during this time.
I have been left with a limp for the rest of my life as a result of her passing, but I am also left with His blessing of hope. He who loved both my mother and me will one day bring us both home.

What profound love and unspeakable compassion that could only come from God.

“I pray that out of His glorious riches He may strengthen you with power through His Spirit in your inner being so that Christ may dwell in your heart through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the saints, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ and to know this love that surpasses knowledge – that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.” Ephesians 3: 16-19

 Pat Farrell’s gifts and talents include being a coach, speaker, retreat leader, student, teacher and Certified Lay Minister for the United Methodist Church. Finding her own life’s purpose came in the desert of her life. She has survived and endured many hardships, and lives to help others know they are enough and they not only can survive but also thrive.

 

Comments

comments

You must be logged in to post a comment Login