People have numerous characteristics that make them peculiar, funny, vociferous, introverted, outgoing, obnoxious, boring, nosey, intimidating, inquisitive, friendly, standoffish and so much more.
We become acquainted with folks; make friends with them, even become kin by marriage; meet at work or in social circles, through hobbies and interests, during good times and bad, and in many other ways.
Those who talk a lot and seem to desire to be the center of attention will tell you their life’s story from birth to that very moment.
The topics include boy or girl friends, education and schools attended, profession or job, marital status, children or grandchildren, parents, income, hobbies, interests and all that could go into a resume.
Usually there’s much more than necessary for a resume, unless you happen to be applying for a position with the CIA, FBI or other secretive organization.
Much of what they tell you is mundane and of little interest. However, being in the position of reporting the news, there are tidbits that tickle my interest and cause me to want to hear more, if I happen to be in their company.
Maybe something was said that might lead to an interesting story, or perhaps a column or two. It could lead deeper into an investigation. Who knows?
When that occurs, you might run into a brick wall seeking more information, but then you dig a little more, ask questions, listen and make notes.
On the other hand, there are folks you meet and become acquainted with who are reserved and give you little information about themselves, their family or other aspects of their lives.
Over time, though, you learn by listening, observing and checking out things. Some people are secretive and rather silent and keep most information and feelings to themselves.
There may be secrets, events they don’t want to talk about. It has been said, however, that a secret is not a secret if two people know it.
Do you know any secrets? If so, there are plenty of folks eager to hear what you have to say.
Benjamin Disraeli said, “Talk to people about themselves and they will listen for hours.”
Germain G. Glien said, “The older I grow the more I listen to people who don’t talk much.”
“Two monologues do not make a dialogue,” said Jeff Daly.
If a dispute arises, follow the advice of Josh Billings who said, “Silence is one of the hardest arguments to refute.”
Too many people can’t stand being silent they must say something. Someone said, “The easiest way to save face is to keep the lower half shut.”
That should not be too difficult.